There’s been a little conflict going on in my head recently, which I would really love to share with you all and to get your opinion. It’s about bloggers: how we shop and how we potentially feed into over-the-top consumerism.

As a blogger I have to have (or at least feel I have to have) the latest things in store. Potential for regrams from the big brands are only possible if what you’re featuring is still in store, with a substantial amount of stock, which means I’m always after new items to feature. Haul videos are still as popular as ever, with some bloggers filming two haul videos every single week. But the thing is, this is part of our job, we’re often sent stuff, lent stuff and the items that don’t get worn (but are briefly featured in a haul video) are often sent back. And if I’m totally honest I have draped a jacket over my shoulder for a Instagram photo before returning it- not because I didn’t love the jacket, but because I have a few other ones almost identical, which I wouldn’t photograph as it’s from last season and therefore out of stock. I find that I give so much away to friends/charity at the moment because, if it’s no longer in stock I probably therefore won’t be able to use it again for social content.

I recently spoke about this to a friend, who asked, if we’re not spending our own money on each item or potentially returning some items then isn’t it misleading? I personally don’t think so. I’d love to keep everything I feature because I do honestly love everything I show on here and on social, but it isn’t possible due to cost/space/ not having enough opportunities to wear the items.

I think as bloggers we want to show you what’s in store, how it looks on and how you can style it, but it definitely isn’t an amount of shopping a regular non-blogger should be doing. Use Instagram and Haul Videos as inspiration but not inspiration as to how much you should actually be buying. Bloggers are gifted items, lent items and even those endless designer bags some bloggers have are bought with vouchers and hefty 60% discounts. I really worry that some people try to keep up with a bloggers buying habits which are usually excessive. Even I myself have felt the pressure to buy myself a designer handbag like very other blogger, even though I know I don’t really want one.

Outfit details: Shoes- old Primark, Dress- ASOS, Sunglasses- ASOS 

Just like a magazine picks the 10 must have shoes of the season we do the same. Except we may have bought a few, been lent a few and be returning the ones we’re not actually going to wear; however it appears that the blogger has bought it all, and maybe you should do the same.
It’s unrealistic and wasteful. You can’t do it in real life. If I wasn’t a blogger, posting a few new outfits every week on Instagram I’d buy 1/5 of what I do now- if not less. I’d swap with my friends, borrow off my friends and invest in more long term fashion.

I guess with this also comes the cool places bloggers get to eat/visit and the endless holidays some bloggers get to go on, use them as inspiration but its unlikely that a ‘regular person’ with an average income could realistically go on six 5-star exotic holidays a year and I think it’s important to remember that. I also want to point out that I’m not bringing up the free holidays and free clothes in order to brag, bloggers are often portrayed as entitled and braggy, but brands see an increase in sales and work with bloggers similarly to how they work with traditional press.

It’s not the norm to have a biker coat in 6 colours, two of which are almost identical, but one is in stock now and one isn’t. What I’m saying is that next time you’re scrolling through Instagram adding 56 new items to your mental Wishlist, just know that blogger’s shopping habits should not be a benchmark of the norm- it’s the excess and it’s our job; we take 10 outfits on our 3 day city break not because everyone should, but in the attempt that some people will like one of the ten and buy something in the photo.

Of course, you do you. If you want to buy half of ASOS/Topshop/Net-a-Porter on a weekly basis that’s your choice but I think it’s important to keep it real and remind you you don’t have to buy everything you see on Instagram.

Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments! Was a little bit of a scary post to publish if I’m honest!

Last month ASK Italian took Jess (from Cocoa Chelsea) and I to Venice, Italy- to eat like an Italian (which is the dream!). If you follow me on Instagram (or YouTube, I uploaded a daily vlog here) you may have seen a few photos/videos already but if you haven’t I thought I would update you.

 We had a super early flight out of Gatwick and once we landed in Venice we jumped in a Taxi Boat to the city and I must admit it was quite the experience- I wouldn’t mind getting a taxi boat everywhere! Once we checked into our hotel the eating started and we went on a food & drink walking tour. We made our way around the Bacari’s, drank Aperol Spritz and ate all the cicchetti we could.
With a tummy lined with delicious food, we did a little bit of exploring, we wondered around the tiny streets, followed the signs to Basilica de San Marco and picked up some gelato for a touristy photo over the canals. I hadn’t Googled Venice before the trip so didn’t know what to expect but it’s beautiful, we didn’t get to go inside the Basilica (saving that for next time) but even the outside was breathtaking. We ended the afternoon at Danieli Hotel for cocktails on the terrace before it started to rain and we had to take it inside.

But the best part of the trip was in the evening…

We jumped in a taxi boat back to our hotel to get ready for dinner, I didn’t have time for much, I just added a bit of dry shampoo and changed into a jumpsuit but I was so excited for dinner!
We were lucky enough to have the opportunity to eat at a Venetian Family’s home, share their dinner table and food. The table was set up outdoors and absolutely stunning, we started the delicious food outside but were interrupted by lightning, thunder and rain. We managed to have our antipasti outside and the most delicious pesto pasta but ran inside, plate in hand for meatballs and tiramisu. I can’t do the evening much justice but I hope you can tell from the photos and my video just how magical it was, huge thanks to ASK Italian for organising it!

Day two in Venice started again quite early for me, I think I was just excited so couldn’t sleep, I went for a little wander before breakfast as there’s something very special about getting up before all the tourists are out. It was Burano-day and I had very much been looking forward to it since I had seen it on Instagram.

We took the water bus and arrived on the beautiful island, lined with beautifully multicoloured house and we were very lucky to have the sun shining. If you’re ever in Venice then make an effort to get to Burano, it’s well worth the trip! We wandered around, took photos, ate more ice cream and had a delicious lunch at Trattoria al Gatto Nero.
And to end the trip perfectly we finished with a Gondola ride. We got to wear the gondolier’s hat and see the city from the small narrow canals and we did ask the gondoliers to sing but he told us he only sings to his wife!

Overall, an amazing trip and huge thanks to ASK Italian for having me. Since I’ve been back I’ve been dreaming of the pasta and have been into ASK Italian for a cheeky bowl or two. Find your local ASK Italian here

I really didn’t think I’d fall for Venice like I did but I’m already desperate to go back!

PS. Post coming up soon about Spain!

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As the days go on I get more and more obsessed with Snapchat! I can’t believe that my last post like this was back in October, since then it’s become an even bigger and better platform. It’s hard to decide who to add, as you can’t preview it so I’ve left a super brief description and links to their Instagram. I’d recommend adding the ones you might like and after a few days it might be worth having a small clear out. I’ve really tried to pick only the best, so here are 20 more of my favourites…

Emily, StyleLobster
Follow for: Everyday makeup talk-throughs, London life and the occasional drunk LOL.

Kate, TheGlowEdit
Follow for: Travel and beautiful London locations

Mimi, MimiIkon
Follow for: London life, healthy food, travel and now her pregnancy!

Tash & Dev, Tashandev
Follow for: The most beautiful beach and bikini shots. Their bodies are ultimate goals!

The Lean Machines, TheLeanMachines
Follow for: Fitness YouTuber banter

Byrdie, ByrdieBeauty
Follow for: Behind the scenes and the newest beauty launches

Madeleine Bitici, MadeleineBitici
Follow for: Urban outfit inspo and her booty

Eva Longoria, RealEvaLongoria
Follow for: Real life of the Real Housewife

Tati westbrook, TatiWestbrook
Follow for: The newest releases and real reviews

Alex Steinherr, Asteinherr
Follow for: Life of a beauty editor and Sunday DIY facials

Laura Carlson, TheLauraCarlson
Follow for: Dubai life, beauty purchases and Truthbombs

Alexia, FashionFilth
Follow for: Dog Walks, fast cars and highend bargain hauls

Gemma, OMGHelloGemma
Follow for: Country life and vegan inspo (even for non-vegans!)

Emma Hill, EJStyle
Follow for: Wearable fashion, travel and sooo many dogs!

Carter Marissa, CarterMarissa
Follow for: Fake tan goddess

Kourtney Kardashian, KourtneyKardash
Follow for: General Kardashianess and fitness inspo

Katie, Lusterlux
Follow for: Makeup and general fun with Desi Perkins (mentioned in last Snapchat post)

Amra, Amrezy
Follow for: Ultimate Instagram Makeup

Hazel Wallace, TheFoodMedic
Follow for: Fitness, Nutrition and travel

Also if you don’t follow me I’d love it if you did! My username is ‘alittleobsessed’ or simply take a photo of my ghost below using your Snapchat app. Let me know in the comments who your favourite Snapchatters are…

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